true friendship is a privelege, and one not to be taken lightly. especially woman-friendships... they're tricky, and easy to mess up. royally. trust me, i've had my share of broken-heart-friendship moments, and if you're a sistah reading this, i am sure you know just what i mean.
there's something that happens with woman-friends that either builds you as a person or tears you down. i've been so challenged over the years to work to make sure those friends i commit time to are both building into my family and life-goals, and being built up by my friendship. sometimes i see God-moments in that, and others i put my head on my pillow at night and wrestle with the knowledge that a conversation just wasn't right, or an issue was left unresolved.
as we've cycled through the seasons, i've often found that there just isn't time to devote to relationships that don't edify, and i have to let that be okay. nonetheless, it's hard to pull back and not feel left out when others seem to go on just fine without you! (and if you are a blogger, you may notice that bloggy-world feeds that, huh? ahh, thoughts for another post...)
i thoroughly and completely soak up the times that it's just working, though... friendship moments and seasons that flow freely, when you sense that both "girls" are benefitting equally from knowing each other. one such friendship i really value is with the amazing bren. i am awed by her sensitivity, her passion for life, her security in who she is. i want to encourage her however i can on her journey of being the woman God created her to be... and i sense that from her, for me. as i've said to others, i appreciate her for who she is, but i don't wanna be her. i get the same from her. and that's vital.